How can love you nobody

With precise details and haunting photographs, Soofi delicately and carefully etches the everyday world of those who inhabit the peripheries of society.

See our price match guarantee. See how a store is chosen for you. Restrictions apply. Pricing, promotions and availability may vary by location and at Target. Loading, please wait Free 2-Day Shipping. Same Day Delivery. Please select a store. Sold out. Help us improve this page. About this item. Specifications Number of Pages: Genre: Non-Classifiable. Format: Paperback. Publisher: India Penguin. Age Range: Adult. Author: Mayank Singh. However, if you feel like no one cares about you all the time or you do not believe that anyone will ever love you, this article is for you.

One of the reasons that you may feel this way is if you have low self-esteem. This is very common, and in fact, almost everyone has had a bout with low self-esteem, especially in the teenage or young adult period of our lives. Low self-esteem can have a major impact on your quality of life and your happiness as well as your success. If you believe that you are not worthy of love or happiness, you will not look for it and will likely give up before you ever find it.

You cannot be happy if you believe that you do not deserve it, and it is hard to find someone who loves you if you do not love yourself. You may not even know you have low self-esteem. It may be natural for you to feel like you are unworthy of any kind of happiness because that is how you have always felt. It may be that you were brought up that way. If you were brought up in a family with people who belittle or criticize you, the chances are good that you will grow up to feel that way.

Here are some of the signs of low self-esteem:. Most people have been rejected once or twice in their lives, and they can accept it and move on with no problem. In fact, rejection is a good way of learning things. However, those with low self-esteem do not see rejection that way. They see it as them being a failure , and they take it to mean that they cannot do anything right. That is because they do not know how to process the rejection, so they fixate on it, letting it consume them.

However, sometimes rejection is unwarranted anyway. Who is to say that the person who rejected you is right? In many cases, that person was just having a bad day, knew someone who looked like you once that hurt them, or maybe they just don't like your name.

Rejection does not always have to be right. Everyone has their own opinion, and if you ask several people about the same thing, you will likely get three different opinions. You may be suffering from depression. This is a serious and common mental health disorder that is very treatable, but you have to realize that you have it before you can get help. However, it can be difficult to realize that you have depression because you are so used to feeling sad, tired, and blah, that you are used to it and think it is normal.

You may even think everyone feels this way, so you do not seek help. Others believe that it will just go away on its own if you ignore it. And many people think that it is all in "their head" and that they should just "get over it. On one hand Sushma talks about her past, while she cooks dal for him and also wonders how he can have just boiled dal.

When they get customers, they go with them, return in a couple of minutes, take the money, ask the customers to come back again, and join back the conversation with Soofi — all with matter-of-factness. It is also ironical how this section of society generates intense curiosity and yet behaved as if they do not exist. For example, the shopkeepers below these brothels say pointedly that they have nothing to do with those women; they never talk or wish each other on any occasion.

The cover page is impressive; and it suitably teases you with the hints of what lay inside the book. The image of cheap cosmetics and ornaments with the blurred image of a woman on the cover page, and a green locked door with jasmine gajra on the handle reeks of a brothel.

Nobody Can Love You More is a remarkable work of non fiction that handles a sensitive subject delicately, while at the same time offers an intimate commentary about the lives of women of kotha number teen sau and their surroundings. Apr 15, D rated it it was amazing. This is my second non-fiction book that I couldn't put down. I'm glad I've started liking non-fiction better. The author takes you on a journey to some parts of old Delhi like GB road, Chaawri Bazar etc I felt like I was part of it while reading it.

For a moment I was so tempted to visit all these places on my own but it wasn't easy for the author to visit these places and at the end he did mention that he wasn't really sure if the women he spoke to told him the truth about their past lives or w This is my second non-fiction book that I couldn't put down.

For a moment I was so tempted to visit all these places on my own but it wasn't easy for the author to visit these places and at the end he did mention that he wasn't really sure if the women he spoke to told him the truth about their past lives or was it just made up. I'm not sure how many days he spent in that Kotha but he definitely started sounding more like a family member and was concerned about the people living there. I wish he gave some hint about Nighat who left all of a sudden.

I didn't know much about Shamshad Begum and the fact that Saira Bano was her granddaughter. Got to know a lot of things about these women and their lives. Gentle, probing, curious and tender as quoted by Khushwant Singh. I remember reading someone's review saying that author was eating off dirty plates to earn their trust.

No, I didn't feel he was trying to project something like that otherwise he wouldn't have mentioned the fact that he was hesitant but he did it because he didn't want to hurt them. I found it really genuine. Anyway, to each his own. I loved reading this book and if possible I would definitely read it again. Copying his lines Yeh woh aurat hai Tumhari nazar mein Jiska jism sirf auratnuma hai. Jise tumne kabhi aurat maana Magar darasal Asli aurat Yahi hai Ye sabra-na-jabt ki hain putli Tawaif isko tum kehte ho Tum Isko besawa keh lo Ye sab kuch maan leti hain Palat kar kuch nahin kehti Yeh shafaf darpan hain Har chand aaina hain.

Jun 20, Sandra Alexander rated it liked it. An encyclopedia on life in GB Road, Delhi's red light district. In trying to make sense of the place, Soofi records the mundanities of daily life here - where the women shop, how they pray, what their children think of their professions etc.

What he does is root the residents of GB Road to the city, the place, and impress upon Delhi's memory their existence, and the stories of their survival. In a city that otherwise tries hard to erase the mention of GB Road from its vocabulary, Nobody Loves You More makes you see the place, but fails to travel into the lives of the women it captures.

Sep 09, Jigar Parikh rated it really liked it. Though I felt some portions were repetitive still an interesting read. One should go for it if one wants to read something off-bit! Nov 23, Nidhi Mahajan rated it really liked it Shelves: delhi , indian-literature , non-fiction. As published on the author, Mayank Austen Soofi's website- here. Nobody Can Love You More is one of those engaging and overwhelming reads that leave you with so many thoughts but not enough words to put them in.

It was a pleasant surprise to discover that the book is so much more than just that. Soofi has picked u As published on the author, Mayank Austen Soofi's website- here. Soofi has picked up experiences, anecdotes and even passing comments of a myriad set of people whose lives have been built and shaped by this forced peripheral existence in society. What is remarkable is that he is able to weave together these different strands to produce a larger narrative which gives us a picture of not just the specific area that the book concerns itself with but a picture of the city of Delhi itself.

He does this in a way that a reader, especially someone like me who has lived all her life in Delhi, experiences a sense of unfamiliarity and alienation. At one point, it was almost as if the city of Delhi was a stranger whom I had never met or talked to before. On the surface, they might appear as everyday men and women who work, raise their children, visit religious places and so on.

Underneath, they are complex, deep and dark characters with stories from the past and present that have molded and continue to mold their lives and their future. I loved how Soofi introduces you not just to the women but also to the families that live at G. In fact, I could not help but fall in love with the characters of Omar and Osman, two of the children who live at Kotha No.

They also have some very interesting comments about religion- about heaven and hell and the devil. Their words take you back to your own childhood. They make you think how our minds are conditioned from our very childhood. The lives of these children reflect upon the many lives that have been shaped at G.

Nobody Can Love You More is not exactly a travel book. It is an experience blended effectively with fiction. The narrative is accompanied by black and white pictures which enhance the realistic representation that Soofi has attempted to achieve.

Brilliantly captured, in both written word and visual art, Nobody Can Love You More gives you a glimpse into a part of the city that you have never known. The experience is rich and stays with you much after you have parted with the book. Feb 27, Heather rated it liked it Shelves: india , sex-relationships. I can't say I'm a fan of the writing style, so far. He's a little too much, "Look at me and the crazy things I am doing! I'm eating off dirty plates to earn their trust!

It's light reading and it flows ok, but it's not really literature. He spends too much time congratulating himself. Will update when finished. Jun 24, Michelle Francis rated it it was ok. The book gave a nice perspective on the life of a sex worker and approached it from various angles. But the overall writing was superficial and lacked depth. I wish it'd portrayed more about the emotions they felt rather than the facts and events of their lives. Jul 13, Sehar Moughal rated it it was amazing. A beautiful ethnography.

Feb 09, Hardik Gaurav rated it really liked it. May 08, Ubah Khasimuddin rated it really liked it. I read this book in my ongoing quest to understand more about India.

This book is a look at the red light district of Delhi. I had no idea that I had walked so close to it - so much of old Delhi is how this author describes it that one might not even know you are passing through; though this is a specific street in Old Delhi. The book follows the ladies of on brothel and the family who owns that brothel. Its tragic how the ladies come into this life but what I thought was done well by the author I read this book in my ongoing quest to understand more about India.

Its tragic how the ladies come into this life but what I thought was done well by the author is that he spent roughly 3 years with these people and you get to see how this sense of defeatism sets in and the ladies think this is all they can do and they are not capable of anything else. There is nothing glamorous about this book, one of the people the author talks to in the book, a fruit vendor says, "these women are dirty, do they even wash after every client? One of the children of the house owner speaks about how you have to get out of there off that street, or you get swallowed by that street.

The book also makes a good case for making prostitution legal in India, so the ladies would have more freedom - they make rupees on each man but more than half of that gets eaten in giving the house owner fees. The ladies have little left for themselves. And than there are the pimps. I just wonder if this seedy business would be less so if it was legal? At least for the women involved. I highly recommend for those like me, outsiders coming to live and work in Delhi or those interested in the subject.

But this is definitely adult matter. Aug 22, Sumit Dhamija rated it liked it. I first heard of Soofi from a friend who showed me the breathtaking pictures Soofi clicks on the streets of Delhi. Honestly speaking, I fell in love with his pictures - moreso because of the thought provoking and at times radical caption he writes with every picture. Find it hard to believe? Go check out his Instagram page thedelhiwalla. He spent a great deal of time read three years visiting and being friends with the inhabitants of Kotha No.

The book is interlaced with seemingly ordinary photographs, and each one has its own story to tell. By following the daily lives of the denizens of one kotha, Soofi paints an intimate portrait of women for whom sex is work - a way to make a living and not a profession of choice.

He gives his readers a sense of GB road without stripping bare the lives of its people. Jul 14, Riya Kulshrestha rated it liked it. I took the book out of the sheer interest to know what brings the people in the district there.

However, the book is more of a literal documentary about the life there.. Well, in a way, the book truly lives up to its title.. It tells you all about it, very elaborately , with a slight glimpse into the stories of one of the prostitutes who has a normal life outside thi world wi I took the book out of the sheer interest to know what brings the people in the district there.

It tells you all about it, very elaborately , with a slight glimpse into the stories of one of the prostitutes who has a normal life outside thi world with a family to whom she visits for 6 months each year. They believe that she works in a software company in Delhi and she lives with a changes name here.

She does this for money and would like to return completely to the normal world someday. However, don't be misleaded in anyway that the book offers more of this. Or maybe the author hasn't told us everything. Anyways, Kudos to the writer for living this wonderful experience to actually pen it down in a book. Jun 03, Gre rated it it was amazing Shelves: india. A beautifully written, rare book that focuses on understanding the "Who" rather than the "What. It may be even harder to portray and write about them.

Soofi does both with empathy, deftness, and awareness. He even questions his own motives for writing the book, which I appreciated. This is an important book that will soften our hardened hearts against "the rest of the world," and help us want A beautifully written, rare book that focuses on understanding the "Who" rather than the "What.